I’ve been reading this too much already… well, I invited the younger Vanda for a coffee too. ☕️
I asked for a chai latte, caffeine-free, and she had chai , not even realizing she’s hypersensitive, which is why it knocks her out. No worries, some nausea and she’ll figure it out. 😬
She asked what I do, and I told her that I’m a full-time mom, with three little kids. She said that must mean I have an amazing husband, because she doesn’t want kids at all. She wants to travel, be a vet, and would go crazy if she had to stay home. 👶👶👶
I reassured her that she’ll travel a lot (oooh well, quite a lot), and get three degrees, but she’ll enjoy being at home too, and it will be just as huge a challenge and journey of self-discovery with the kids as the one she imagined for herself. She sort of believed me, but sort of didn’t. I don’t blame her, it took me a while too. I told her I’m going to move to America for a while. She looked at me with wide eyes, meeeee?! Nooo, she hates moving, never really longed to go there. Well, I said, no, but she’s always wanted to be close to nature, and hiking opportunities and wanted a partner who is so superb that even from his butt crack the sun shines. Well, he got a job here, and the family moved. She was really curious who the person was who could move her out of her comfort zone like that, someone who even pays attention to which foot steps into the house first. 🫠
I told her that the husband I mentioned earlier is listed as „God’s feet” in her phone, that he’s such a wonderful husband and father, that he’ll always lift her up and never want to keep distance. I saw her listening intently, she’d never experienced this before, and patience isn’t her strong suit… yet!!! 👫
She asked me what it would be like to be a vet. I told her she’d find a great team and learn a lot, which will be true even if she decides to try motherhood again. I still can’t fully answer that. I told her I actually ended up as a psychologist because animals come with their owners, and she seemed satisfied. 🐕🐈
I told her that later on, she’ll know even more about herself, and will want to know more, which didn’t surprise her. She seemed happy when I told her I no longer want to meet anyone’s expectations. That I feel good in my own skin, inside and out. The demons come and go, but that’s nothing new. 🤷♀️
She was curious if she’d be a good mom, and what kind of wife she would be. I shrugged, we do the best we can, those shoulders are wide. 😶🌫️
She didn’t want to let me pay, I told her I wasn’t going to let that happen later either. On the way out, she asked if I’d want to write again someday. Oh, that never fades away. 📚
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